Poem January 2023

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Talking in the Dark

Talking in the dark can be a way to begin

falling in love or becoming friends

again after a difficult day

in summer when late light walks away,

when the kitchen knives splayed on the table

hold galaxies that remind us to be playful

despite the sharp edges that the sun showed us.

Paired in the dark, in passion, night knows us

in ways we don’t know ourselves.

Something in us — coded into our cells? —

goes back to the time of sleeping in caves

when words were made to be believed,

where the walls were painted for dreams, for magic,

for hunts with spears, daggers, and hatchets.

The people on the walls are working together.

They have no anger. They have only hunger.

  Paul Jones

Paul Jones’ most recent book is Something Wonderful.

Tea Leaf Astrologer

Tea Leaf Astrologer

Capricorn

(December 22 – January 19)

Here’s what they don’t tell you about goat yoga: You become the mat. “What’s the harm in a bit of hair nibbling?” you might wonder. “Even the droppings are kind of cute.” When you’re accustomed to being the goat, it’s easy to see the world in this way. Others are less amused. This month, as you deftly scale whatever obstacles might arise on your path, try not to step on your allies’ toes. Honoring boundaries will get you further. 

Tea leaf “fortunes” for the rest of you:

Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)

Wear your sunglasses.

Pisces (February 19 – March 20)

The remedy is within you.

Aries (March 21 – April 19)

Check the mailbox.

Taurus (April 20 – May 20)

You’ve made your own bed.

Gemini (May 21 – June 20)

Go for the twin pack.

Cancer (June 21 – July 22)

The eagle has landed.

Leo (July 23 – August 22)

You’ll know the red flag when you see it.

Virgo (August 23 – September 22)

Rule of thumb: Rinse before use.

Libra (September 23 – October 22)

Move the plot forward.

Scorpio (October 23 – November 21)

Someone needs a hug.

Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)

Just take the stairs.  PS

Zora Stellanova has been divining with tea leaves since Game of Thrones’ Starbucks cup mishap of 2019. While she’s not exactly a medium, she’s far from average. She lives in the N.C. foothills with her Sphynx cat, Lyla. 

The Omnivorous Reader

The Omnivorous Reader

Finding Dylan

A riddle wrapped in a rhyme

By  Stephen E. Smith

I lied to my mother, told her I was spending the night with a friend, and at 3 p.m. I climbed into a VW bug with two high school buds and blasted up the 200-plus miles of interstate to New York City’s Greenwich Village. We’d been listening to “Like a Rolling Stone” that summer, and we were determined to find Bob Dylan. We were confident he’d be hanging out in the Village, and as we milled about on the corner of Bleecker and MacDougal, I asked a bohemian passerby where Dylan was performing. He laughed in my face. “Good luck finding that guy,” he said.

Like most of my generation, I’ve been half-heartedly looking for Dylan ever since.

But that’s the point, isn’t it? Who is Bob Dylan, and why have we been talking about him for the last six decades? I’ve listened to most of his recordings, watched Martin Scorsese’s No Direction Home multiple times and read books by and about him. I’ve even seen him in concert. Now there’s a new book, The Philosophy of Modern Song, supposedly penned by the man himself, and the search continues.

Since Dylan is credited as the author, The Philosophy of Modern Song is an instant bestseller, and there are reviews galore in magazines, newspapers and online that will tell you exactly what you want to hear about the enigmatic songwriter’s literary efforts. But before committing myself to read all 350 pages, I had to be convinced that it was written by Dylan. After all, the guy has been known to mess with us. There were accusations that he borrowed lines in his Nobel Prize acceptance speech from Melville and a brouhaha about autopen-signed copies of the new book. So I plowed through the first five chapters, reread parts of Dylan’s Chronicles and watched the Scorsese film, paying attention to Dylan’s language patterns. And, yeah, what’s written in the book sounds like Dylan. His name is on the dust jacket. I trust Simon & Schuster. Dylan wrote the book.

Here’s what you need to know. First, there’s not an iota of philosophy in The Philosophy of Modern Song. If you’re looking for philosophical thought, pick up a copy of The Essential Kierkegaard. Dylan is all about pop music, and in this latest offering, he’s simply chosen songs about which he’s passionate and written semi-expository/semi-poetic essays (I use the terms “essay” and “poetic” loosely) to accompany the songs. He’s no great shakes as a prose stylist, but he makes up for his lack of finesse with unbridled enthusiasm. He’s fervent about the songs he likes (or loves) and he tells the reader why in a torrent of bewildering but compelling prose.

Dylan has chosen more than 60 popular songs, and in chapters ranging in length from a few hundred to 3,000 words, he lauds the composers, singers and musicians who created the recordings.

It’s impossible to identify a dominant musical style in Dylan’s selection — pop, rock, country, R&B, folk, jazz, soul, rockabilly, gospel, etc. — all are represented. And there’s a mishmash of performers — Bing Crosby, The Fugs, Elvis Presley, Perry Como, Webb Pierce, Tommy Edwards, Vic Damone, Dean Martin, Little Walter, Ernie K-Doe, Charlie Poole, Ricky Nelson. He is, as pop-culture aficionados are wont to say, all over the musical map.

Dylan’s essays follow no discernible pattern. He’s occasionally analytical but more often gushes torrents of expressionistic prose that imperturbable readers are left to interpret. Uncle Dave Mason’s enchanting “Keep My Skillet Good and Greasy,” originally released as a single almost a century ago, is typical of Dylan’s approach to explicating a song.

“In this song your self-identities are interlocked, every one of you is a dead ringer for the other. You’re the Dalai Lama, the Black Monk and the Thief of Baghdad all rolled into one, and the whole world is your city. You’re prowling and shoplifting, going down the East End, back where you came from, to the wilderness and brush — back to Chinatown and Little Italy — saddlebags full of barley and cornbread, rosemary and ivy, and sides of bacon in your pocket. You’re unmuzzled and unleashed, nightwalkin’ up the crooked way, the Royal Road, stealing turkey legs and anything sweet and spicy, roaming through the tobacco fields like Robin Hood, broiling and braising everything in sight.”

Occasionally, Dylan steps from behind his curtain of words and lapses into playfully preposterous insights. He claims Marty Robbins’ classic “El Paso” as a song about genocide; he attacks the divorce business; and he lauds Nudie Suits and the supernatural powers of blue suede shoes.

When explicating Waylon Jennings’ “I’ve Always Been Crazy,” he dredges up a piece of history as a metaphor: “. . . and the individual peculiarities of the human condition are sliced as thin as a serving of potato during the Great Irish Famine of the 1840s. Which some people will, no doubt, also view as politically incorrect caricature even though the potato was a cheap staple of the Irish population and was decimated by a fungus that destroyed half the crop in 1845.”

This didactic passage isn’t necessary — anyone who reads Dylan is probably familiar with the Irish Potato Famine — but Dylan can’t abandon his clever illustration and goes on to mix the metaphor with drugs, rabbit meat and buckshot: “People try different ways to insulate themselves as their nerves are rubbed raw — there are various mood-altering substances, some self-prescribed, others classified by the government and only available by prescription. None of these are precise — they are more akin to buckshot than to a sniper’s bullet. And though they can be helpful, anyone who has hunted with a shotgun will tell you, you might enjoy the rabbit but you’re gonna spend a certain amount of time biting down on buckshot.” It’s difficult to imagine Dylan taking time from his “Never Ending Tour” to hunt rabbits, and we’re left to wonder if he’s taken to heart the chorus of Jennings’ song regarding his status as popstar: “I’ve always been crazy but it’s kept me from going insane.”

In the final analysis, we should simply step back and consider Dylan’s jumbled Kerouac-ish prose as one might behold Picasso’s Guernica, not so much as individual lines of text but as a holistic composition, an attempt to transfer emotion and energy without the encumbrance of form.

Even if you’re not a Bob Dylan fan — and there are a lot of you out there — you can make The Philosophy of Modern Song an entertaining and enlightening read. Here’s what you should do. Make sure your smart speaker has a subscription to a streaming music service such as Spotify, Amazon Music, Apple Music, etc., then kick back in your easy chair and start reading Dylan’s chapter on Bobby Bare’s “Detroit City.” Call up the song on your speaker. Read along to the music. If much of what you read strikes you as nonsensical, Dylan’s wry, incongruous humor will nonetheless impregnate your cerebrum. Expect the unexpected. As Dylan sang so many years ago: “I’ll let you be in my dreams if I can be in yours.”  PS

Stephen E. Smith is a retired professor and the author of seven books of poetry and prose. He’s the recipient of the Poetry Northwest Young Poet’s Prize, the Zoe Kincaid Brockman Prize for poetry and four North Carolina Press Awards.

Heather Wood + Carl Thomas

HEATHER WOOD + CARL THOMAS

Photographer: Bekah Leanne Photography Wedding Planner: Soirée Pines

Both in the veterinary field, Heather and Carl met on a blind date set up by a colleague in 2016. The couple immediately bonded over their love of animals and, four years later, took the next step toward marriage. Heather’s favorite place in the world is the historic Biltmore Estate, so when Carl wanted to propose, he knew exactly where to go to secure a “yes.”

The venue was just as easy to choose. Heather grew up two blocks away from the Weymouth Center for the Arts & Humanities and would often walk there with her family, catching tadpoles in the pond as a little girl. On the big day, Heather and Carl’s guests dined in the Great Room of the historic Boyd House. The couple collected antique, colored glasses and goblets that complemented the vintage room and the wedding’s 1920s vibe.

“Our day suited us perfectly,” Heather said. “I would not change a thing! If you ask Carl though, he says that he wished he could have had more time to eat our delicious food and cupcakes.”

Ceremony & Reception: Weymouth Center for the Arts & Humanities | Dress: Wtoo by Watters | Hair: Dawn Gardner, Studio Elite Hair Gallery | Bridesmaids: Azazie | Groom & Groomsmen: The Black Tux | Flowers: Thistle & Moon | Cake: C.Cups Cupcakery | Catering: Mission BBQ | Charcuterie Board: Amazing Grazing | Custom Cocktails: Reverie Cocktails | Rentals: Petal & Oak and King’s Rentals | Invitations & Programs: The Knot

 

Kellyann Miller + Christopher Irwin

KELLYANN MILLER + CHRISTOPHER IRWIN

Photographer: Jessica Steddom Videographer: The Axtells: Wedding Photography and Films

Kellyann and Chris had mutual friends, but they met the modern way — with a swipe right. The pair dated for over five years while living in New York City, where they would spend Fridays working together in their oasis in the big city, a little garden behind the High Line Hotel. After moving to Texas in 2020, Chris took Kellyann back to their NYC garden spot and got on down on one knee to propose.

Born and raised in the Sandhills, Kellyann couldn’t think of a better place to get married than the Weymouth Center. A classic palette of black, navy, and white completed the big day. Kellyann didn’t have bridesmaids, but she asked close friends and family to wear navy.

“The day was absolutely perfect — a dream come true,” Kellyann said. “We are so lucky to have had all of our family and friends in our sweet town of Southern Pines to celebrate.”

Ceremony & Reception: Weymouth Center for the Arts & Humanities | Dress: Sarah Seven | Shoes: Jimmy Choo | Hair: Heather Velazco | Makeup: Brittani Rae | Flowers: Thistle & Moon | Cake: The Bakehouse | Catering: Rocky Top Catering | Rentals: Ward Productions | Transportation: Kirk Tours & Limousine

   

Kate Morris + Shane Medlin

KATE MORRIS + SHANE MEDLIN

Photographer: Sayer Photography Videographer: Steve McKenzie, The Village Chapel Wedding Planner: Rebecca & Will Wright, Hillside Florist Wedding Coordinator: Deborah Davis, The Village Chapel

Shane first saw his future bride, Kate, when he went to his sister’s dance recital in 2014. Shane attended Union Pines, while Kate attended Pinecrest, so he had to reach out on social media to break through the rivalry and date his high school sweetheart.

The couple stayed together through college and eventually bought a house in Pinehurst. That’s when Shane and Kate became members of The Village Chapel. When they had to choose a ceremony location, they didn’t think twice.

On the big day, Kate wore eponymous “Kate” heels from Christian Louboutin and the pearl earrings her mother wore at her own wedding. Together, the newlyweds cruised to their reception at Aberdeen’s Soirée on South in a family classic car, a lavender 1955 Dodge Le Femme.

When the couple’s Punta Cana honeymoon was canceled due to a hurricane, Shane and Kate audibled, choosing to start their marriage with a getaway to Williamsburg, Virginia, and a return trip to the site of the proposal, the Outer Banks.

Ceremony: The Village Chapel | Reception: Soirée on South | Dress: Simona by Eva Lendel | Shoes: Kate by Christian Louboutin | Hair: Jordan Mangum | Makeup: Emery Pulido | Bridesmaids: Azazie | Groom & Groomsmen: JoS. A. Bank | Flowers: Thistle & Moon | Cake: C.Cups Cupcakery | Catering: Genuine Hospitality Catering & Events | Rentals: Ward Productions

 

Millicent Womble + Holden Poole

MILLICENT WOMBLE + HOLDEN POOLE

Photographer: Kelsey Nelson Photography Videographer: The Family Films Wedding Planner: Vision Events Wedding & Event Planning Wedding Coordinator: Deborah Davis, The Village Chapel

Millicent and Holden started dating while attending East Carolina University. “One of our first dates was a sorority social of mine,” Millicent said. Once Holden survived that (and chose to stick around), Millicent decided he was a keeper.

During a weekend getaway to Charlotte — a city the couple loves — Holden proposed to Millicent in Romare Bearden Park while his sister covertly snapped photos to document the engagement.

When selecting a venue, Millicent knew just where to go: She has many beloved childhood memories from The Carolina Hotel.

“We had so many wonderful memories there,” Millicent said, “from delicious dinners to enjoying Christmas decorations or sitting on the front porch of the resort and enjoying the Pinehurst view.”

Holden loves playing golf, so when his future bride suggested a Pinehurst wedding, he didn’t need to be convinced. The pair tied the knot at The Village Chapel and then celebrated at The Carolina Hotel, just a short walk away.

Ceremony: The Village Chapel | Reception: The Carolina Hotel, Pinehurst Resort | Dress: Lovely Bride | Hair: Autumn Dickerson, Bella East Salon and Spa | Makeup: Blushed Bridal | Bridesmaids: Mori Lee, Carolina Bridal World | Groom & Groomsmen: Men’s Wearhouse | Flowers: Jeffrey’s Florist | Cake & Catering: Pinehurst Resort | Invitations & Programs: Ashley Triggiano Fine Art | Transportation: Kirk Tours & Limousine

Kailey Osterman + Eric Parziale

KAILEY OSTERMAN + ERIC PARZIALE

Photographer: Catherine Leigh Photography Videographer: Davis Video Productions Wedding Coordinator: Jonathan Ward, Ward Productions

A tennis match, an empty ring box, and a little help from Poppy — the couple’s Boston terrier who ran onto the courts with the “missing” ring attached to her collar — made for the engagement of Kailey’s dreams. And that was only the first act of the night Eric had planned. When the couple arrived at Eric’s parents’ house, their closest friends and family were waiting to celebrate over good food.

Living on the 18th hole of Pine Needles Golf Club, the Pinehurst natives had a special connection to their wedding venue. An outdoor reception was planned, but Mother Nature intervened. Unexpected rain forced the party inside to the club’s dining room, but the queso fountain and taco bar kept the bride and groom and all their guests cheesing the night away.

Ceremony & Reception: Pine Needles Lodge & Golf Club | Dress: Jenny Yoo | Shoes: Cecelia New York | Hair & Makeup: Chelsea Regan Makeup + Hair | Bridesmaids: BHLDN | Groom & Groomsmen: JoS. A. Bank | Flowers: Jack Hadden Floral & Event Design | Cake: C.Cups Cupcakery | Catering: Pine Needles Lodge & Golf Club | Rentals: Ward Productions | Invitations & Programs: Zola

Allison Hand + Jordan Kral

ALLISON HAND + JORDAN KRAL

Photographer: By Colette Photo Videographer: Wayward North Films Wedding Coordinator: Mary Dutton, Forest Creek

Both collegiate athletes, Jordan, a golfer, and Allison, a softball player, met through a teammate at a college bar. After dating briefly in school, the couple reconnected a few years later when Jordan reached out.

“We talked on the phone for hours that night and pretty much never stopped,” Allison remembered.

A beach proposal secretly photographed by Allison’s cousin and a brunch celebration with friends and family made a sweet start to a Sunday. After moving all over the United States and even back to Jordan’s hometown of Windsor, Ontario, the couple settled in Pinehurst so the groom could continue to work in golf.

They held their wedding ceremony on the grass overlooking a golf course at the Forest Creek Golf Club and then moved on to food in the dining room and dancing outside on the patio. With flowers from Thistle & Moon, Allison said her modern, boho wedding came to life.

Ceremony & Reception: Forest Creek Golf Club | Dress: Elsie, Made with Love | Shoes: Vince Camuto | Hair: Kaylee Thomas, Bronde Salon & Extension Bar | Makeup: Chelsea O’Neal, Brittany King | Bridesmaids: Birdy Grey | Groom & Groomsmen: Freeds of Windsor | Flowers: Thistle & Moon | Cake & Cupcakes: Designer Cakes by: Brigitte and Southern Angel Donut Co. | Catering: Forest Creek Golf Club | Rentals: Richmond Rentals & Sales | Invitations: Shutterbug Grafix | Transportation: A Ride Transportation and Seven Lakes Transportation