The Omnivorous Reader

Retracing Washington’s Footsteps

Touring a nation divided, then and now

By Stephen E. Smith

When historian Nathaniel Philbrick decided upon the title Travels with George for his most recent book, he took on a hefty obligation. In three words he employed two significant allusions. First, “Travels with” references Travels with Charley, Steinbeck’s classic travelogue (Charley was Steinbeck’s pet poodle) in which the author of Grapes of Wrath takes a thoughtful look at a sedate 1960s America. Second, the name “George” alludes to the George in American history — George Washington.

Oh, no, you might groan, not another book about Washington. His diaries are available in a four-volume set, there are numerous explications of his writings, and we are inundated with scholarly biographies. Barring newly discovered facets of Washington’s life or a passing reassessment of his faults and virtues, what is there left to say about the man?

But if new material were unearthed, Philbrick would likely write about it. He is the author of a dozen popular histories and has a following among middlebrow readers who thrive on fascinating facts about our country’s origins. His works are perceptive and relevant and always worth reading. Travels with George is no exception.

The title immediately divides the book into two distinct narratives that Philbrick skillfully intertwines. The first is the “tour.” When Washington became president in 1789, he found America divided into two factions. There were no Republican or Democrat parties, but the country was split by two opposing views of how the government should function: citizens who favored the Constitution (Federalists) and those who didn’t (Anti-Federalists). If the country were to be united, there was one man who possessed the prestige to encourage a sense of unity. So, it was that Washington set out on a 1789-1791 journey that would take him from Portsmouth, New Hampshire, in the North to Savannah, Georgia, in the South. He embarked on his tour in a fancy horse-drawn coach (the chariot) and kept a sketchy commentary of his journey. Philbrick and his wife travel by car with their dog, Dora, a red, bushy-tailed Nova Scotia retriever. The physical America they encounter would, of course, be unrecognizable to Washington, but the divisions that trouble our politics would not be foreign to his understanding of democracy.

Washington spurned undue adoration. He was not fond of crowds and military honor guards, and he avoided both whenever possible. But he was also sensitive to social and political slights. When Gov. John Hancock of Massachusetts avoided dining with Washington, the first president never forgot the snub. Moreover, the Washington most Americans think they know — Parson Weems’ godlike contrivance — has little in common with the Father of Our Country.

“This is the Washington who was capable of punishing an enslaved worker who repeatedly attempted to escape by selling him to the sugar plantations in the Caribbean,” Philbrick writes. “This is the Washington who in the days before leaving for the Constitutional Convention had an enslaved house servant whipped for repeatedly walking across the freshly planted lawn in front of Mount Vernon.” A particularly ghastly example of Washington’s cruelty was his habit of having living teeth pulled from jaws of his slaves and implanted in his own toothless head.

The new president completed his tour of the Middle Atlantic states and New England before turning his attention to the states south of Virginia, a part of the country with which he was unfamiliar. Once in North Carolina, he spent the night in Tarboro and left early the next morning to avoid the dust that would be kicked up by a company of local cavalry that planned to escort him to New Bern. When he reached “a trifling place called Greenville,” the riders — and the dust — caught up with him.

“By that point Washington had entered a landscape that was new and utterly strange to him,” Philbrick writes, “the domain of the longleaf pine — a species of tree most of us in the twenty-first century have never seen but that in the eighteenth century covered an estimated ninety million acres, all the way south from North Carolina to Florida and as far west as Texas.”

Washington found the North Carolina landscape a bit unsettling. The longleaf forests were dense and shadowy, and he wrote that the landscape was “the most barren country I ever beheld,” but conceded that “the appearances of it are agreeable, resembling a lawn well covered with evergreens and a good verdure below from a broom of coarse grass which having sprung since the burning of the woods, had a neat and handsome look. . . .”

Washington was feted at balls and celebrations. He endured flea-infested beds in dilapidated taverns and the adulation of the ever-present paramilitary escorts. He even inspired a little romantic speculation when he visited with Nathanael Greene’s widow at Mulberry Grove Plantation outside Savannah. From there he passed through Augusta, Camden, Salisbury and Old Salem before returning to Mount Vernon.

The second component of Travels with George is not a comparison and contrast with Washington’s tours, but is more a mildly political semi-narrative supported by documents, maps and photographs. The Philbricks and their dog are agreeable company — their perceptions are folksy and laced with wit and intriguing observations — but inevitably, Philbrick must address the political divisions that trouble contemporary America.

After visiting Greene’s plantation, Philbrick wrote: “I was tempted to believe that a monster had been born in Mulberry Grove. But it was worse than that. A monster is singular and slayable. What haunts America is more pervasive, more stubborn, and often invisible. It is the legacy of slavery, and it is everywhere.” Reinforcing this point of view, Philbrick quotes from observations Washington made in his farewell address to the nation.

What troubled Washington was what might happen if a president’s priority was to divide rather than unite the American people: “It serves always to distract the public councils and enfeeble the public administration,” Washington wrote. “It agitates the community with ill-founded jealousies and false alarms, kindles the animosity of one part against another, foments occasionally riot and insurrection. It opens the door to foreign influence and corruption, which finds a facilitated access to the government itself through the channels of party passions.”

Washington might well have been writing about America at this moment, and readers who find themselves agreeing politically with Philbrick and Washington are likely to experience Travels with George as a pleasant and reassuring read. Those who disagree probably won’t make it beyond the preface.  PS

Stephen E. Smith is a retired professor and the author of seven books of poetry and prose. He’s the recipient of the Poetry Northwest Young Poet’s Prize, the Zoe Kincaid Brockman Prize for poetry and four North Carolina Press Awards.

Simple Life

A Gentle Nudge

Mysteries of the golfing universe

 

By Jim Dodson

Not long ago, the host of a popular golf radio show asked me who I most enjoy playing golf with these days. We were discussing the various golfers and assorted eccentrics I’ve met, interviewed, and written about over a long and winding career.

“These days, I like to play golf with old guys,” I said without hesitation, “like my friend Harry.”

“So, who is Harry?” he asked.

Harry, I explained, is a gifted artist and nationally known cartoonist I’ve known for many years. He has a wry sense of humor, a beautiful tempo in his golf swing, and a refreshing take on life. Harry is 76 years old, deaf in at least one ear, losing bits of his eyesight, and battling a rogue sciatic nerve in his left leg that sometimes makes swinging a club difficult.

He was once a splendid single-digit player who now aims for bogey golf, and never gets too rattled by whatever the game gives him. He accepts that bad breaks happen and are simply part of this maddening Presbyterian game, not worth fretting about. So are aging body parts that can’t propel the ball the way they once did.

Instead, Harry plays for the occasional fine shot, the rare good break, and the fellowship of his companions that includes a good bit of affectionate needling and laughter. He’s never had an ace, but holds out hope of someday shooting his age, the proverbial goal of every aging golfer.

Though I’m almost a decade younger than Harry — he jokes that I am a pre-geezer in training — I love playing with him because he is a model of what I hope to be like in the rapidly shrinking years ahead: a man who has loved the game since he was a boy and loves it just as much, though differently, as an old man. He is living proof that the game can grow sweeter as the clock runs down.

Golf has been part of his life since he was 10 or 11 years old and an uncle allowed him to pick a club from a barrel of used irons. He chose a battle-scarred 7-iron and the set that went with it.

“It was a set of Dalton Hague clubs, really beautiful. I played with them for years bragging that I owned real Dalton Hague signature golf clubs.” He pauses and chuckles. “They turned out to be Walter Hagen clubs that had just been beaten to death. But oh, how I loved those clubs.”

We often meet late in the afternoon for nine holes at a beautiful municipal course set on a wide lake well out of town, surrounded by mature hardwood forests with no houses, streets or power lines visible anywhere. We often pause to watch the action as shadows lengthen and nature reawakens — deer crossing fairways, waterfowl in flight. We rarely bother to keep a score. We just play, talk, be.

Harry’s favorite hole is the short par-4 seventh that angles down toward the lake, with an approach over a wooded cove to an elevated green backdropped by a breathtaking view of the water. He has sketched and painted it several times, aiming to get it just right. “Isn’t this something?” he’ll say with a note of quiet wonder, pausing before his approach shot that sometimes lands in the water of the cove, sometimes just feet from the pin.

If nothing else, getting older also makes it easier to laugh in the face of Father Time. “That’s the easiest 69 I ever made,” Walter Hagen — aka Dalton Hague — playfully quipped upon turning 69.

One afternoon not long ago, as we were watching a spectacular chevron of geese heading south for the winter over the lake from his favorite spot on the course, Harry told me a little golf story that speaks of wonder and mystery.

After Harry’s mom passed away, her final wish was that Harry and his younger sister take her ashes and those of Harry’s father down to a lake in a park at Carolina Beach, where the couple first met and later married. Harry promised he would do that.

His sister was a busy surgical nurse. Her unpredictable schedule repeatedly delayed their planned journey to the coast. It happened month after month. One afternoon he was playing golf with a partner who was particularly wild off the tee.

“I was helping him look for his ball deep in the woods, when I stepped over a downed tree and saw a golf ball sitting on top of a rotting log — almost like someone had placed it there. I picked it up and tossed it over to my companion. But it wasn’t his ball so he tossed it back. It was a very old ball. When I looked at it, I couldn’t believe what I was seeing.”

The ball’s colorful logo read Carolina Beach.

One word was printed on the opposite side — Mom.

“It sent chills down my spine. A day later, I drove my folks’ ashes down to Carolina Beach — four hours away — and spread them in the lake at a spot that meant so much to their life together. I felt real peace at that moment.”

As he told me this, he pulled the ball out of his bag and handed it to me.

“I’ve carried it with me ever since,” he explained with a very Harry-like smile. “This game, this life, is wonderfully unexplainable, isn’t it?”

Simple coincidence or a gentle nudge from the golfing universe? Harry’s not sure. And neither am I. But that’s part of the wonder of this game.

As we played on, hitting occasional nice shots and mishits that will never be recorded, it struck me that there was, as usual, a nice little message in Harry’s seventh-hole homily, perfectly timed for a couple “old” friends on a golden afternoon at the end of their golf season; yet another reason to be thankful for the game I aim to play just like Harry until I either shoot my age or simply fly away like geese in the autumn.  PS

Jim Dodson can be reached at jwdauthor@gmail.com.

 

Illustration by Gerry O’Neill

Out of the Blue

Furball Fun

Always up to scratch

By Deborah Salomon

Welcome, fellow felinistas, to Cat Column No. 8. I limit myself to one a year, in January, or else you might shred this beautiful magazine for litter. In the beginning I promised only good news, which continues since my two kitties are still spry in old age, perhaps 14 or 15. Unlike humans and dogs, teeth don’t tell.

So far, they’re not misplacing car keys or forgetting a vet appointment, either.

Recap: The saga began in 2011 when a coal black (even whiskers) kitty with fur as smooth and shiny as satin turned up at my door. I was without cat companions — always two, sometimes three — for the first time in 30 years. Of course I fed him and, six months later, opened the door to the most amazing animal I’ve ever met. Neighbors said his family, who took the trouble to neuter and declaw him, had moved away, abandoning him.

Lucky was at home instantly. He knew how to repay my kindness with love. He is calm, thoughtful, stoic, brilliant. I adore him.

Some months later a fat, lumpy girl with patchwork grey stripes against a white background came begging. Her gait defines “waddle.” She was a neighborhood semi-feral, fed by many, obviously, with a notched ear signifying that some kind soul had her spayed. She was skittish, unfriendly, short on smarts. She hissed at me and, especially, Lucky. I thought about naming her Edith (Bunker) but settled on the eponymous Hissy, which became Missy when she wised up, realized her good fortune and became a sweetie. However, after nine years she still dislikes the world, loves just me . . . and Lucky. She became his handmaiden, deferring to him, washing his face, following him into the yard, respecting his nests.

That’s right: nests. Cats are nesters, especially my Lucky. They find quiet out-of-the-way spots to curl up and sleep, preferably a place with a familiar aroma like a half-full laundry basket. Lucky’s first nest, pre-adoption, was under a bush by my front door. Once inside, he found a flannel jacket that had fallen off the hanger in the back of my closet. After a few weeks the fabric had conformed to his curled-up shape and I had learned the hard way not to shut the closet door.

I had also installed towel-covered perches on two sunny windowsills, which don’t qualify as nests because of visibility.

Next came the cable box, which is warm but only semi-private. He hangs over the sides, so I laid a book of the same thickness next to it. Ahhh . . . his expression conveyed.

To lure him off that nest I put a round, fleece-lined cat bed in a living room corner, underneath a low window. Here, tucked away, Lucky can see what’s going on outside and inside. This was nap central all summer, especially days cool enough to open the window.

Well, Hissy/Missy wasn’t taking this best-nest thing lying down. She would sidle by, checking occupancy, claiming the prime space when available. So, to keep the peace I installed a second fleece-lined bed beside it.

Fat chance.

Nests aren’t just for sleeping I discovered after putting down a cardboard box with an opening cut into one side, so Lucky could claim his fort, defend it from intruders. There he sits inside the box, smiling, while Missy attacks with swats and growls.

Such fun! Great exercise! Costs nothing!

When the game is over, Missy sidles up to Lucky and commences grooming him — a good thing, since arthritis prevents him from reaching nether areas.

I feel his pain in my own joints.

Last week, Missy displayed a rare intelligence. I brought out my suitcase in preparation for a quick trip to visit my grandsons for the first time in almost two years, leaving my kitties with a pet sitter possessing enough certifications to tend the Queen’s corgis. Missy became agitated. She napped less, talked more, even pooped outside the litter box, a sure sign of distress. Could she have remembered what the suitcase signifies? Decades ago we had an Airedale who went berserk, tried to destroy suitcases. A more secure Lucky reacts by curling up inside it, shedding on my new sweater.

A perfect nest, he purrs, albeit temporary.

But their ultimate nest isn’t a nest at all. My kitties found nirvana in full view, on the heating pad that eases my shoulder pain at night. I had to buy a double-wide second pad to accommodate us all. Talk about smart: On the first chilly day Lucky, followed by Missy, jumped on the bed, looking for it.

Sounds crazy, I know. Only animal people will understand my anthropomorphisms, let alone put up with Lucky’s insistent paw at 4 a.m. demanding breakfast and a spin outside before returning to the heating pad(s).

I could relate more but he’s sitting by my desk, giving me that look that says, “lap time.”

And people say cats are aloof and unaffectionate. Maybe, to aloof, unaffectionate people.

Same time, next year?  PS

Deborah Salomon is a writer for PineStraw and The Pilot. She may be reached at debsalomon@nc.rr.com.

Alyssa Rocherolle + Reuben Kennedy

ALYSSA ROCHEROLLE + REUBEN KENNEDY

Photographer: The Photobrief Wedding Coordinator: Rose Young, Imagine Moore Events

Alyssa was sitting on the porch swing of a cabin in Boone, watching the sun set on the mountains, when Reuben proposed. Eleven months later, she walked down the aisle at the Southern Pines Chapel in her mother’s veil to the wedding march her grandmother wrote for her parents’ wedding. The couple then drove to their reception in Alyssa’s grandfather’s restored 1950 Citroën, the same car the bride’s parents had driven to their own reception.

Alyssa’s family is French, and Reuben is Southern — their wedding theme was “French country with a Southern twist.” Whiskey Pines, the groom and his cousins played country, rock and bluegrass music, and Randy Blue, a family friend, served barbecue. The couple also served French croquembouche pastry towers before guests ended the night with drinks at O’Donnell’s Pub, where the couple first met four years earlier.

Ceremony: Southern Pines Chapel | Reception: Soirée on South | Dress: Melissa Sweet, David’s Bridal | Earrings: Olive + Piper Hair & Makeup: Retro Studio Bar | Groomsmen: The Black Tux | Feather Bow Tie: Jack & Miles | Flowers: Carol Dowd, Botanicals | Pastry Towers: The Bakehouse | Invitations: Printed by Harris Printing Company | Transportation: Lo’s Vintage Car

Ashlin Owen + John Adkins

ASHLIN OWEN + JOHN ADKINS

Photographer: Amy Allen Photography Videographer: Twenty-One Films Wedding Planner: Vision Events Wedding & Event Planning

Ashlin and John met through a dating app. After their first date, John suggested they go late-night shopping at Target — it was too late for Ashlin, but, from the suggestion, she knew he was special. A year later, John took Ashlin to Rey’s Restaurant in Cary to celebrate their dating anniversary, and he proposed at dessert. Ashlin asked, “Is this real?” several times before saying yes.

After recovering from the surprise, Ashlin and John chose the historic Weymouth House as their wedding venue. The bride’s parents live in Pinehurst, and her mom suggested the location. “Oh Happy Day” was the theme of the wedding. A choir sang the song after the ceremony, and the “Oh Happy Daze” custom cocktail was a hit. For a particularly memorable touch, the bride’s mother had an artist paint the duo under the ceremonial arbor during the reception.

Ceremony & Reception: Weymouth Center for the Arts & Humanities | Dress: Lana Addison Bridal | Shoes: Kate Whitcomb | Groomsmen: Jos A Bank | Flowers: Jack Hadden Floral & Event Design | Cake: C Cups Cupcakery | Catering: Ashten’s | Live Painter: Gabbi Cook | Invitations: Eloise Trading Company | Transportation: Kirk Tours & Limousine

Jacquelyn + Spencer

JACQUELYN + SPENCER

Photographer: By Colette Photo Videographer: Anthem Cry Weddings, Daniel Hamby

Spencer proposed to Jackie after they summited Algonquin Peak in the Adirondacks. With the proposal out of the way, the couple planned an October wedding in the Sandhills. They married at St. Anthony of Padua Catholic Church, and the church staff streamed the wedding for family and friends who were unable to attend.

After the ceremony, the party moved to the reception at the beautiful, Tudor-style Duncraig Manor and Gardens. The wedding’s inspiration was Hollywood glam. Maple syrup produced and bottled by the bride’s parents’ maple syrup farm in upstate New York was an intimate touch, and the s’mores pit was a guest favorite. The bride and groom ended the night by jumping into the pool to cool off — they highly recommend it.

Ceremony: St. Anthony of Padua Catholic Church | Reception: Duncraig Manor and Gardens | Dress: Simone Carvalli from Lucy’s Bridal, Vass | Shoes: Badgley Mischka Hair & Makeup: Wendy Rae Fiallo, Fayetteville | Nails: Karma Spa Lounge & Beauty Bar | Bridesmaids: Azazie | Groomsmen: The Black Tux | Flowers: Caroline Naysmith, Duncraig Manor & Cardon Consulting | Cake: Marci’s Cakes and Bakes | Drink Service: Reverie Cocktails

Samantha Parkes + Nathaniel Klimek

SAMANTHA PARKES + NATHANIEL KLIMEK

Photographer: Jennifer B. Photography Wedding Planner: Vision Events Wedding & Event Planning

Sam, born and raised in Moore County, and Nathan, who grew up in Raleigh, met at the Pinehurst fireworks at the Fair Barn in July 2018. Nathan then proposed to Sam while they were hiking south of Boone. The pair stopped at an overlook for a drink of water when Nathan handed Sam a cup that read “Future Mrs. Klimek.” After a short and sweet proposal, Sam allegedly said yes so loudly that her response echoed through the canyon.

Two hundred twenty-nine days later, the couple tied the knot in their farmhouse rustic wedding at the Country Club of North Carolina on September 25, 2021 — or, if you ask Nathan, the day of the NC State versus Clemson football game. The cake by the Bakehouse featured the couple’s dogs Lucy and Scout, and the altar was greenery with white roses except for one sunflower to honor the bride’s mom, who loved the yellow flower.

Ceremony & Reception: Country Club of North Carolina | Dress: Alexias Bridal | Shoes: Sparkle Kate Spade Keds | Hair & Makeup: Retro Studio Bar | Bridesmaids: Show me your MuMu | Flowers: Jack Hadden Floral & Event Design | Cake: The Bakehouse | Tent: Capital Events | Furniture Rental: Greenhouse Picker Sisters | Transportation: Kirk Tours & Limousine

Cate Dahl + Grant Bitzer

CATE DAHL + GRANT BITZER

Photographer: Mollie Tobias Photography

Cate and Grant, both physical therapists, met on Cate’s first day of work in the rehabilitation department at the University of North Carolina’s hospital when Grant stood up to shake her hand. Now, their physical therapy careers have taken the pair to separate jobs, but they’ll forever be grateful for their serendipitous meeting at UNC.

Throughout their relationship, Cate had been asking Grant to go on a picnic. When they finally did, Grant got down on one knee and proposed to Cate in Weymouth’s gardens. Fifteen months later, the pair wed at the church Cate grew up in, Emmanuel Episcopal Church, before heading to their dream reception at Pinehurst’s Fair Barn.

Ceremony: Emmanuel Episcopal Church | Reception: The Fair Barn | Dress & Shoes: Pronovias and Loeffler Randall Hair & Makeup: Retro Studio Bar | Bridesmaids: Wtoo from Bella Bridesmaids | Groomsmen: Calvin Klein Tux | Feather Bow Tie: Brackish from Monkee’s | Flowers: Jack Hadden Floral & Event Design | Cake: C Cups Cupcakery | Catering: Elliotts on Linden | Rentals: Ward Productions | Invites & Programs: Printed by Jellison Press Printers | Transportation: Kirk Tours & Limousine

Alejandra Reyes + Walter Monroe Williams

ALEJANDRA REYES + WALTER MONROE WILLIAMS

Photographer: Megan Morales Photography

Alejandra and Walter grew up in Richmond County and knew of each other in high school — they had friends in common. But they were only “friends” on social media until nearly a decade after high school when they finally connected and went on a date. Alejandra’s final semester of graduate school briefly delayed their relationship, but, after graduation, the couple reconnected for date number two.

A month into the pandemic, Walter planned a low-key, intimate proposal. The pair had casual conversation over Mexican takeout and walked around Aberdeen City Lake before Walter popped the question. Honoring Alejandra’s Mexican heritage, the couple had a bilingual wedding filled with rich traditions and a vibrant palette of dark green with pops of red, yellow and pink.

Ceremony: St. James Catholic Church, Hamlet | Reception: The Fair Barn | Dress: Pronovia from Elizabella’s Bridal Boutique Hair: Monica Morales Makeup: Anna Rowland | Bridesmaids: Azazie | Groomsmen: Belk | Flowers: Hillside Florist, Rockingham Cake: A Place Called Bethany, Pembroke Catering: Rick’s Catering, Laurinburg | Transportation: Kirk Tours & Limousines | Invites & Programs: Reaves Engraving, Laurinburg

Cassidy Benjamin + Michael Asbury, Jr.

CASSIDY BENJAMIN + MICHAEL ASBURY, JR.

Photographer: IAMJOS Photography Videographer: Bay Leaf Video Productions Wedding Planner: Natasha Widmer, Pinehurst Resort

Golf-and-spa-filled vacations brought Cassidy’s family to Pinehurst, then her parents decided to retire to the area. After graduating from college, Cassidy followed her parents to the Sandhills. Mike moved to the area for his job as a sales manager at the Pine Needles and Mid Pines Golf Clubs, and the two eventually met on a dating app. “Thank goodness for technology,” Cassidy says.

In May 2020, Mike proposed after a round of golf on the 18th green of Mid Pines surrounded by their closest friends and family — in person and on Zoom. A year later, the couple married at the Pinehurst Resort. They skipped traditional events like the bouquet toss, so their guests could get right to dancing.

Ceremony: Donald Ross Room, Pinehurst Resort | Reception: The Members Club | Dress: Simply Stunning by Divas Hair & Makeup: Chelsea Regan Makeup + Hair | Bridesmaids: Azazie | Groomsmen: Generation Tux | Flowers: Jack Hadden Floral & Event Design | Floral Preservation: Pine Pressed Flowers, Whispering Pines | Cake & Catering: Pinehurst Resort | Transportation: Kirk Tours & Limousine